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DATING PROFILES THAT GET RESULTS!

PROFILES THAT GET RESULTS!

OUR TEN POINT DATING PROFILE GUIDE FOR GETTING ATTENTION: CRUCIAL DOS AND DON’TS, AVOIDING THE BIG MISTAKES

The place to start in online dating lies in asolid understanding of your goals. But whether you’re looking for aserious relationship, just casual dating for now, or you’re open toboth, the purpose of your profile is to make connections that open thedoor to personal contact. It’s not about telling your life story. Therewill be time for that. It’s about generating interest to get to thenext stage.

Youand.me is meant to be a fun and easy dating sitefor singles. We believe people are at their most appealing when they’remost at ease. Think of dating online as a scintillating adventure, achance to show the opposite sex who you are and, just maybe, find thelove of your life.

Before getting into your profile try two researchexercises. Check out the profiles of the opposite sex. This is youraudience. Are there common things in a prospect that seem to interestthem? Do they describe the qualities they’re looking for? Does thissuggest attributes of your own to highlight? Then look at thecompetition, the profiles that come up when the opposite sex looks forsomeone like you. Which ones strike you as appealing? Make notes.

GETTING STARTED

1. DATING USERNAMES AND HEADLINES ARE IMPORTANT
Sleazy,vulgar, negative or other inappropriate usernames can kill it right atthe start. (It’s easy to change them.) Try something upbeat orinformative (FunnyGuy, NYCBlonde). Your profile’s headline is alsoimportant—it’s the first thing out of your mouth. Spend time on it. Bepositive, maybe playful. “Up For Sharing Great Times!” sure beats“Lonely 4U in Houston.”

2. DON’T APOLOGIZE FOR BEING HERE
Online dating ishot and getting hotter. Most everybody tries it. You’re not herebecause your mother insisted, or because you “just want to see who’sout there.” You’re single. You’re here to meet people and make aconnection—and so is everyone else.

3. HOLD THE CLICHES
We’re all looking for our soulmate. There’s room to mention your hopes and feelings—in fact, it’shighly recommended—but go easy on flowery words and poetry (unless,that is, you’re a poet). Speak directly, in your own voice. Use yourprofile to talk honestly about your values and the things that areimportant to you. Avoid overt references to sex. And don’t forget toproofread and spell-check. First impressions matter, neatness counts.Read your profile out loud: Does it sound like you?

4. BE POSITIVE
Phrase things in a positive way;which means avoiding cynical rants about your exes or the opposite sex.Talk about what you like instead of what you don’t. “I’m attracted tohonest and sincere people,” sounds better than, “I’ve had it withplaying games.” Consider an inviting, inclusive approach using “you”and “we.” Avoid big greetings like “Hi Guys!” Assume you’re talkingdirectly to just one person. Humor is an absolute winner coming fromeither sex. Thank visitors for checking in.

5. AVIOD LONG CHECKLISTS
In fact, avoid longanything. A profile isn’t a resume. It’s a teaser, a “trailer” designedto capture the audience’s attention so they’ll want to play a role inthe movie that is your life. When it comes to describing yourself—andwho you’re looking for—bring up just the three or four qualities thatreally matter to you. Long laundry lists limit your potential matchesand can even turn off qualified prospects.

6. PICTURES AREN’T PERFECT…
…but they’renecessary. Otherwise most people (especially men) will simply take apass and move on. Your main picture should be fairly recent and showyou alone; no friends or cut-out exes, no nuzzling your dog, (and takeoff the sunglasses, dude). Give the viewer a clean shot of your faceand a sense of your body. You can have fun with other pictures youchoose to post but keep it to a select few.

7. RESIST SELF-FLATTERY
Limit the complimentaryadjectives. Focus attention on a few key things about yourself thatyou’d like to get across. Subtle comments go along way to attractingothers. Instead of talking about how considerate you are describe anincident: Are you a big brother or big sister? Do you volunteer forsomething? Did you nurse a wounded bird last month before setting itfree? Did you just do the Inca Trail to Macchu Picchu?

8. FOR MEN
Women are interested in yourcircumstances and your prospects. Not because they’re gold diggers;because they’re carrying around survivor genes and face seriousbiological responsibilities. They get pregnant, infants cling to them.If things get serious women want to know you’re solid and dependable.Talk about your job, your hopes and ambitions. Suggest confidence inthe future and openness to a serious relationship. Most of them canspot a player from a mile away.

9. FOR WOMEN
You don’t need to be rescued. Holdoff on mushy and cutesy—there will be time for that. Avoid negativityand endless details. (And hint at the unbridled passion that lies inwait for the right man.)

10. A FEW WORDS ABOUT HONESTY
The object of aonline dating site is to move from screen to voice to meeting up.What’s the point in playing games? If you show up 30 pounds heavier,ten years older than what you stated in your profile, or bear only afaint resemblance to the pictures you posted you will likely end upwasting everybody’s time, especially your own. Then again, not everyoneplays by this rule. It’s estimated that at online dating sitesfrequented by mature members, average age postings are shaded by morethan three years. Does that mean posting your real age will have peopleassuming your older? (You’re on your own with this one.)

So have fun with your online dating profile. Takeyour time. Focus on the important stuff. Be yourself. It’s not life anddeath—it’s dating. The team at Youand.me hopes you find your match, andwe’re here to make that dream happen!

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DATING TIPS HOW TO TELL IF YOUR DATE’S A KEEPER

p>DATING TIPS: HOW TO TELL IF YOUR DATE’S A KEEPER

COULD THE NEW [HEARTTHROB] BE THE ONE? WE EXAMINE THE POSITIVE CLUES…AND THINGS TO WATCH OUT FOR

The elusive, electric feeling we call chemistryis like the ignition system in a car: it’s not the most important thingabout an automobile but, without it, the car won’t start. We can easilytell when the chemistry is there—we can feel it. But how do we know theperson we’re dating has the deeper qualities that count so much in aserious relationship? The team at Youand.me has surveyed the reportsand publications, and listened in on what the dating experts have tosay.

In determining if your date is a serious prospectnothing seems to be more important than assessing a potential partner’sstrength of character, the sense that they’re self-assured andcomfortable with who they are, confident without being arrogant.

The great thing about character strength is the wayit infuses so many of the qualities we tend to value in a partner.Strong, solid people who are not wrapped up in themselves are usuallymore open to new ideas and seem capable of connecting at deeper levels.With less of a personal agenda they find it easier to give ofthemselves. They tend to be devoted partners, passionate lovers,supportive friends and dependable parents.

Of course it’s not always easy to detect this kind ofinner strength early in a dating relationship since that’s when we’reall on our best behavior. But there are some signs to watch out for.

DATING GREEN LIGHTS

1. You share the same values, especially about theimportant things. You have a similar sense of humor; you get eachother’s jokes.

2. He or she has a strong sense of family with whomthey stay in touch. Their friendships are solid, enduring and importantto them. You sense your friends, your family and the other importantpeople in your life will really like this person.

3. Your date is thoughtful and considerate to most everyone regardless of their position.

4. They’re not overly possessive or controlling. Theywelcome the idea that you have a life of your own, which means your owninterests and friends.

5. They draw you out on your interests, goals and ambitions, and usually support them. You get a sense of loyalty.

6. They encourage communication; they’re open tocriticism and accept responsibility for their actions instead of alwaysblaming others. They’re honest and reliable.

7. They’re aware of what’s going on in the worldaround them; their perspective on world events is sensible andempathetic. They devote time and energy to the people and the causesthey believe in.

DATING RED FLAGS

1. Your values and tastes are not aligned. Yourpolitics are at odds; your spiritual beliefs are incompatible or notmutually appreciated. Your lifestyles are very different. You don’tshare the same approach to money.

2. You have very different ideas about family and kids.

3. Your date seems too deeply attached to a formerpartner or goes overboard in their personal or family relationships.They seem unwilling to break cleanly with previous romantic partners.

4. They’re rude or short with others, often seem tense and are frequently unpredictable. Stillness makes them uncomfortable.

5. You find you’re frequently “on edge” when you’retogether. He or she is controlling, often criticizes the people aroundyou and shows little interest in getting to know them.

6. You hear regular rants and criticisms about thepeople in their lives. They have a cynical outlook on life. To hearthem tell it the people around them are always screwing up. They havefew friends, finding it hard to maintain them.

7. You get a sense of addictive or destructivebehavior. They often display a lack of concern about the consequencesof their actions.

It’s easy, of course, to get caught up in the blissof infatuation. We want to see the best in a romantic partner. Afterall, we’re human which means we’re capable of inappropriate behavior onoccasion. But, sooner or later, the gentle mist of our good intentionsand fond hopes fades away. People come out from behind the sales pitchthat colors so much of the early dating process. We start to sort outour future. Is the person we’ve been dating the right one to share itwith?

The sooner we figure that out the better. One thing’sfor your sure, in time, you’ve got a great chance of connecting withthe right partner through Youand.me. It could be today, tomorrow, orsome time soon, But don’t settle for someone “average” just for thesake of being with someone. There are a lot of stellar candidates onYouand.me, so why nor shoot for the stars?

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